The Golden Rule: "NO,
Thanks", means NO! Anyone (yourself
included) may say no at any time for any
reason, without further explanation. If
you're in a situation that makes you
uncomfortable Just Say No! Don't jeopardize
your joy and satisfaction with the
life-style - or that of your partner, by
doing anything against your will.
Don't submit to guilt
or pressure. Swinging is fun. Keep it
that way. Disentangle yourself as quickly as
possible with a firm, but gentle response.
Be honest, but up-front, in order to avoid
misunderstandings.
Always be kind.
First and foremost. it's the proper, humane
way to behave. Secondly, you may reconsider
and want to party later. Keep your options
open.
Everyone has been rejected
at some time. If you're rejected do
NOT take personal offense. Keep the
encounter upbeat and light. Who knows? The
person who passes up the goodies today, may
want to swing with you tomorrow, or may be
the key to you meeting another terrific
partner!
Know your own likes, dislikes, boundaries
and strengths, thoroughly. Encourage
and aid others in their own explorations.
Keep relationships friendly and pleasant.
Always propose, never impose! Swingers feel
their way through encounters in more than
one way. Open all channels of communication.
Deal with jealousy
head-on! It's a normal, human reaction.
Learn what triggers jealousy in
yourself and in your partner. Then work
things out. This may mean modifying certain
activities, curtailing others or finding new
means of sexual expression. Festering
jealousies are destructive. Seek
Constructive remedies as soon as possible.
Let your steady partner
know he or she is always number one!
Take time to stroke their ego. Be generous
with a kiss and a smile. Touch bases with
each other often, so that you both feel
secure. Always arrive together. Honor any
and all prior understandings. Then Party,
Party Party!! Always leave together.
Use common sense and
courtesy. Concentrate on being kind,
thoughtful and sensitive and smile.
Happiness is contagious!
Respect the guidelines
others set, and make your own wishes and
desires clear. There should be No
Surprises! If you're Bi for example ask if
the couple or single you've chosen has a
similar interest. Likewise, if you really
object to Greek or Bondage, bring it up for
discussion. Once you're all comfortable with
the format, let the games begin.
Before, during and after
you party, pay close attention to "Body
Language." There's more to human
interaction than just sexual signals, but
that's definitely part of the picture.
Enhance your romance by considering the
total person. Learn to read the signs and
you'll pick up on what makes your partner
comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately
satisfied.
