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Swinging Etiquette
One of the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be treated. Think C.S.A.S.C. (Common Sense and Social Courtesy). If you employ the following suggestions and adapt them to your own situation, you should be a welcome participant. Taken from the www: Written by Kenn & Lisa.
1. BE COURTEOUS
Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of
insecurities, uncertainties and fears.
Courteously is how we all want to be treated
- with kindness, thoughtfulness,
understanding and sensitivity. In essence,
courtesy is our treating people the way we
ourselves want to be treated. Remember the
Golden and Silver rules.
2. BE FRIENDLY
Whether or not you are personally interested
in swinging with someone, be polite. You
never know, you may share many other
interests or you may meet that person again,
and they may introduce you to someone with
whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share
time.
3. CLEANLINESS
Nothing turns a person off faster than an
unclean body or unfresh breath. Even if you
shower and perfume yourself before you leave
home, it is always a good idea.to freshen up
again when you arrive at your destination.
It is amazing what time to drive somewhere,
stop for a bite, or whatever, can do or
rather UNDO.
4. RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS Beware,
not everyone is comfortable in all
situations, Keep your eyes open for signs
that your partner, as well as others, is
relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone
is not comfortable, try helping them over
the rough spots. Remember, you were a
beginner once yourself. If it is obvious
that things are not working out, remain
polite and courteous; but alert the host.
Keep in mind that not all people feel the
same about things.
5. DON'T BE PUSHY
If you are interested in swinging with
someone, let them know in an inviting way;
if they are interested, they will respond
positively. If they are not and say "No,
thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of
sweet talk or coercion on your part will
change their mind and will probably work
against you. Everyone has the right to say
"NO" at all times, to anyone, without
explanation. Do not ever forget that.
6. ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU Do not
allow yourself to become sexually involved
with anybody that you are not interested in.
There is no reason to involve yourself in a
scene that you are not comfortable with. You
are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so
only do what you want, when you want and
with whom you want.
7. HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is
the right of anyone to say "No". Experience
has taught most people that everybody is not
right for everybody else. Improper handling
of a situation, however, can lead to a lot
of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing
world accepts the premise that everyone has
the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime
and it should be done with a simple "No,
thank you". Never give an explanation,
because that is what usually causes the
problems and the pain.
8. ALCOHOL OR DRUGS
Most of us do not use drugs, although some
of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks
are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging
may hamper your physical abilities, as well
as offend or turn other people off to you.
If you have to over indulge in order to
participate in swinging, you are involved in
the wrong lifestyle.
9. PRACTICE SAFER SEX
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well
as our partners. The use of condoms should
not offend anybody.
10. ENJOY YOURSELF
Most important, have a good time, act out
your fantasies, explore your own sexuality
and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to
offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a
positive attitude.
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